Determine your Values and Create a Priority List

It is an invaluable process to create anything and everything you are wishing for

A lot of times when I speak to people I get a sense of unhappiness and an acceptance of the Life the way it is. It seems that people just fall into certain life challenges and while one part of the heart wants something else, something better, the other part keeps saying; It’s too hard, you don’t have time and you don‘t deserve it anyway!’

So many people just accept the fact that their lives turned out completely different then they envisioned when they were little, in times they were just going to live, ‘happily ever after.

Yep, I was on that road as well. Living through one dis-functional relationship to another, just hoping that the person who would give me happiness ever after would magically appear on the door step, preferably on a white horse!

A few very difficult live challenges forced me look at other ways. I got to a point in life where I just couldn’t handle any more stress, and something happened. I sat outside in our garden and said to myself; I need to do something about my life. I can’t just watch myself going down, most possible ending in depression.’

I decided to change whatever it took, no matter what.

With that decision, magic started to happen. I realised that the Law of Attraction was taking a turn. Instead of me complaining about my life, making excuses all the time, I started to look for answers, and they came in many different forms. I leant that the Law of Attraction is attracting for us 24/7, so I decided that I might as well choose happy, positive thoughts and words.

I also learnt that it is the values that determine who we are. We are passionate about our values and will do anything to live up to them. But what are my values? What is it I really want in my life? I realised the importance of that question; We are attracting all the time whatever we think and talk about. Our ego likes to complain, make excuses, it likes to live in drama, constantly trying to compete with other peoples drama, desperately trying to ‘beat’ the other persons drama. I learnt as long as a concentrate on the drama, the more drama I get.

So, if you don’t want the drama, the rejection, the ill-health, the financial problems, the destructive relationship…. WHAT DO YOU WANT?

Write down your values. What are they? Health? Family? Money? Travel? Time Freedom? A successful career? Friends?

Make a list of all the things you want, all of your values, and then pick out the 5 most important ones for you.

Mine are Health, Family & Friends, Time-Freedom, Travel and Financial Freedom.

Once you know your own 5 most important values and you have written them down, read them to yourself daily. Take note of the feelings inside you, they awaken. Those simple words have the power to change your life, to awaken the passion needed for you to find the energy, time, people and whatever else needed to peruse your dreams! It is so simple and yet like magic!

If you do live in a life you just fallen into, and one part of your heart want something else, something better; try it! What have you go to loose? It only takes a very little amount of time, but the changes will be amazing!

In Love and Light,

Andrea S Pelikan

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Happier Kids, Families, Teachers? (free Ebook)

I am so excited to tell you about an Interview Series for parents
and teachers called the Happier Kids Now Online Expo.

The Happier Kids Now Online Expo is a FREE Interview Series hosted
by Rhonda Ryder and Patrick McMillan providing a wealth of
life-changing information from 24 happiness, self-esteem, health
and education experts.

It’s specifically designed for parents, teachers and homeschoolers.

And, when you sign up for access to the event (at zero cost!),
you’ll receive a complimentary copy of Patrick’s popular Ebook, The
Ultimate Kids Guide to Happiness.

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The line-up of speakers is incredible and includes Bruce Lipton,
PhD; Marianne Williamson; Bob Doyle; Marci Shimoff, Sonia
Choquette; Christine Carter, PhD, Shelly Lefkoe, Dr. Dan
Yachter…plus 16 more!

These leaders will cover current challenges such as child obesity;
child/teen depression; ADHD, autism and nutrition; how to help kids
do better in school…and solutions such as teaching kids the power
of their minds; emotional intelligence, character building,
positive parenting and so much more.

As you probably would agree, many parents and teachers are stressed
out and overwhelmed these days. This leaves its toll on kids and
teens.

Plus, statistics show childhood anxiety and depression levels are
rising at alarming rates.

Giving parents and teachers the strategies and tools to instill
optimism and self-confidence in their children and teens is the
mission of the Happier Kids Now Online Expo.

So don’t miss out. Grab your totally FREE Online Pass to this
amazing event – plus grab Patrick’s Ebook now!

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Love and Light,

Andrea S Pelikan

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‘Being in Heaven’

I would like to introduce you to an unique and inspirational brand new Cinema Film for those interested in recreating any part of their life and awakening more of their potentials.

It is designed to reveal the mysteries of life transformation through its fascinating true stories. It is a fictional drama, not a documentary, and is unlike any other film you have seen.

Written and Directed by Michael Domeyko Rowland, the film is entitled ‘Being in Heaven’. It is a story that not only entertains in the way a normal cinema film does, but it also gives you insights and revelations about how anyone can transform their life forever.

It has been especially designed to allow you to experience, while you are actually watching the film, what it is within you that that drives your choices, behaviours and actions.

It is these programs that make up your life’s experiences, so understanding them is very valuable and is the key to recreating any part of your life to become what you want it to be.

As you may be aware, I spend my time examining and exploring a whole range of interesting ideas, looking for any ‘jewels’ that exist out there. This is one of the most exceptional ones I have ever looked at.

The response to ‘Being in Heaven’ has been brilliant. A launch of the film in Byron Bay, Australia, sold out the largest cinema, with fifty more people turned away. On the feedback sheets, 93% gave the film a rating from good to excellent. The film gained national release at Palace cinemas in Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane and Perth, with more cities to come.

It was also an Official Selection into the 23rd Singapore International Film Festival.

I have seen it myself and can highly recommend it, which is something that I rarely do.

I encourage you to go to http://www.beinginheaven.com/#AndreaSPelikan to view the trailer and to see the SPECIAL OFFER on the DVD of the film, and its companion Audio CD set as well as the book, ‘The Real Law of Attraction’ by Michael Domeyko Rowland.

‘Being in Heaven’ is destined to become a classic in both the cinema and the self transformation movement. Many people have found it is a film they want to see again and again to imbibe its content and help them move forward with their lives.

May I respectfully suggest you take this opportunity to examine the film and be amongst the first to see it, it truly is an amazing film!

In Love & Light,

Andrea S Pelikan

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The Law of Attraction and a Horse

I would like to share another wonderful ‘Law of attraction’ story!

Ever since my daughter Zorana could talk, she talked about horses. She own every single ‘My little Pony’ pony, she has ‘stuffed’ horsed which she takes everywhere, she colors-in horses, and her ‘make believe’ horse ‘Dots’ comes with us everywhere we go. She has an imaginary trailer, in which ‘Dots’ travels, she shops for her and last week needed to do her dream board, on which she carefully stuck all the things she needs for her real horse. From sattle, to supplemets, to stable and a whole riding hall! This girls has always known what she wanted!

I started to look around for lessons but was very surprised to find out that they where $70 per hour! wow, I am sure that if Zorana would get lessons, the boys would want to as well. Mmmh, not something that fits into the budget right now.

I was talking to my girlfriend Loanne,  (check out her website http://www.myspecialvoice.com) about Zorana’s horse dreams when Loanne looked at me and said; ‘My aunt has a horse that need to be ridden and she is looking for someone to spend some time with Schabelle, the horse. It is a perfect, kids pony, very gentle, meet me there next week, i show you guys where everything is and then you can just go whenever you guys fell like it!’

Wow! I am sure I don’t have to mention how exited Zorana is! And me too! But it just prove again; The Law of Attraction works!!!!

Have you got a story to share?

I wish you guys an awesome week!

In Love and Light,

Andrea

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Model Behavior

When my daughter was first born, I used to just look at her thinking; ‘every single thing, situation, feeling she is experiencing, WE give her.’ I was stunned by the realisation that whatever I expose her to in any way, will be normal to her.

When parents fight a lot, the children just think relationships to be normal like that. Children exposed to lots of alcohol and drugs, grow up feeling normal around people who use it a lot. A child receiving no love or compliments will grow up thinking its normal not to receive any.

I consciously started thinking about what I wanted her to label ‘normal’.

Teach your children to expect ‘miracles’ practice positive affirmations with them; it helps you and you help them. Ask your children to point out to you if you use negative words and turn them positive together! Be honest to them when you are feeling sad, they can feel it anyway! Maybe you can make a game out of it them trying to make mummy laugh?

First you have to take care for yourself; your children will automatically follow you. Children always mirror the parents. Whatever your challenges may be, look at your parents, look at what has been modelled to you. And then ask yourself; ‘is this something I keep wanting to do and model the same for my children?’. If not, change it! You are constantly teaching your children with your own behaviour!

I know through my own experiences that ‘change it’ is easier said than done. Most people have someone help them. Don’t worry about the ‘how’, making the decision to change it is the biggest step. Just ‘know’ what it is you want to change, and things will come your way! You might attract a person that can offer some help. You might be given a book that will help you. It is a step by step process, remember? Step by step you will attract into your life that you’ll need.

Our children absorb our moods, our stress, and our guilt, not to mention that they learn how to handle their own feelings by watching how we handle ours!

Your children will learn from you how to look at the world. Is the world a happy, exiting, magical place or is it a scary, dangerous drama?

We can all learn new things and we are not stuck with the viewpoint of life that our parents have modelled for us. There is usually a lot of re-programming that needs to be done to replace old beliefs with new ones.

There are many healing techniques that can help you with the re-programming process. Theta Healing is one of them. Theta Healing is a spiritual based technique that allows us to directly re-program the sub-conscious mind with new positive beliefs and teach new feelings directly to every cell of our body. In other words; it identifies limiting belief systems and dissolves deeply held blocks and instantly re-programs the sub-conscious mind.

Let me explain: if for example a young girl never gets told that she is pretty, even worse she gets told from her parents that she is ugly and dumb; she will grow into a teenager not liking herself, believing she is ugly and dumb. This young woman doesn’t know what if feels like to be pretty and intelligent and will never have the right vibration to attract people or situations that make her feel that way. Remember; the law of attraction responds on how you FEEL about what you say and think.

Another example; a boy constantly gets told by his parent that they can’t afford anything, they have no money and everything is too expensive. This boy grows up believing he hasn’t got enough money, most likely this young man will attract only poverty to himself, never having any money. He doesn’t know what it feels like to be wealthy, to have more then enough money. He will find it extremely challenging to attract money into his life.

With Theta Healing the old believes are removed, replaced and the feelings that are missing are instantly taught. The young woman gets taught what if feels like to be pretty, beautiful, intelligent; the young man gets taught what if feels like to be wealthy, to be worthy of having money.

The most important thing for yourself and your children is to constantly trying to raise your vibration. If you feel gloomy, think about something that makes you happy, do something that gives you joy, talk to a friend that is positive. Try to avoid people that make you feel worse or friends that only want to talk about the dramas in their lives.

Remember it is a step by step process; each day consciously lived practising the things described in this book, brings you closer to manifest and attract all you desire in this world!

How can we deal with rejection?

The topic of rejection keeps creeping up in my life.

Unfortunately I am the kind of girl who has the pleasure to keep experiencing the feeling from my own mother the most. Always the same situations; me trying to involve my mum into my life, looking forward to her showing up at one of the events i am part of, only to find that once again something else was more important then to support her own daughter, or helping out without first having to beg on my knees.

The more i move forward on my spiritual journey, the more should i know, not to buy into it. I have emotionally distansted myself a lot, but still situations like the one friday night hurt me for days.

I have been a healer at a event called  ‘The Night of Light’ for one year now. I even had the honour to be a guest speaker at one of those nights. I have invited my mum to come along each time, but funny enough every time she had something else on instead, i will come the next time, she kept saying. Last friday been the last ‘Night of Light’ event i was sure she would come, but to no surprise really, she didn’t.

So what is it, that she just can’t make it? Why arern’t I important enough for her to support me, just once? Isn’t it ‘normal’ for a mum to go and be part of and event her own daughter plays an important role of? It is very easy to deal with rejection from friends, we can just drop them and won’t have to see them again if we choose to do that. But family?

Patrik, my ever loving and supportive husband asked me one question; Andrea, what do you think do you need to learn out of those experiences? Every time this happens, and it happens very regurarly, you get crushed, sad, angry, you don’y sleep. But really what is the lesson for you to learn, what haven’t you understood yet?

Mmmmh…. It is so true. I keep reaction with my ego, my pain body…. calling for appreciation, support, begging my mum to acknowledge me and my achievements, even though i know i won’t get it from her. All my life i have tried to prove myself, just for her to tell me just that one time; you did well, i am proud of you!

So, what is the lesson i have yet to learn out of those hurts?

• Well first of all, those hurting feelings got me onto the road of self-help. I found out about Theta Healing and got so much stuff cleared out of my sub-conscious mind. I got onto a new path, becoming a spiritual healer, publishing Affirmation Book for Children, to empower them, build self-esteem and self-love, all of which i never had. Thank you Mum.
• I learnt to be differnet to my children. I know that i want to be a supportive parent, no matter what my children choose to do with their lives, I will be there for them, every step of their way. I will watch every game they play in sports, i will be there with every award they win, and every event that is important to them. I know i can give them unconditional love, and my main priority is to build self-esteem and self love within them. Thank you Mum.
• I know that I have to stop being the victim. I have to look at every situation where my mum chooses to hurt me and look beyond the hurting feeling and disappointment. What can I learn from each of those situations? It can only make me stronger and more loving. I can choose loving thought towards my mum, even if she chooses to hurt me. It is her choice after all. She has her choice and i have mine! How powerful! I can choose on how I let it affect me! Do i waste days of good feelings, night of sleep, over something i cannot control? Or do i send her loving thoughts and healing light? Thank you Mum.
• The other thing i have learnt is the power of saying sorry. Not once have i heard a ‘I am sorry Andrea’ from my mum. Man hours i have spent thinking about how a mum can hurt her own daugther like that and not even acknowlde it afterwards. But again, I have to choice on how i let it affect me. It is easy, don’t expect anything, give lots of love and it will return to you, what way we don’t know. I constantly say sorry to my children when i do or say something that could hurt them, and i am so happy to be able to teach this to my children by being a good example. I will know only concentrate on living my life towards my dreams and goals, accompanied with my wonderful husband, children and friends, who support me with every step i make. Thank you Mum.

I will know only concentrate on living my life towards my dreams and goals, accompanied with my wonderful husband, children and friends, who support me with every step i make.

And last but not least, thank you mum for being my teacher and my mum, I will only grow and gratefully take on all the lesson and challenges you have in mind for me over the course of our lives together!

With much Love and Light

Andrea

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The Miracle

A little girl went
to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet..

She poured the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. Three
times, even. The total had to be exactly perfect. No chance here for mistakes.

Carefully placing the coins back in the jar and twisting on the cap, she
slipped out the back door and made her way 6 blocks to Rexall’s Drug Store with
the big red Indian Chief sign above the door.

She waited patiently for
the pharmacist to give her some attention, but he was too busy at this moment.
Tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise. Nothing. She cleared her throat
with the most disgusting sound she could muster. No
good. Finally she took a
quarter from her jar and banged it on the glass counter. That did it!

‘And what do you want?’ the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of
voice. I’m talking to my brother from Chicago whom I haven’t seen in ages,’ he
said without waiting for a reply to his question.

‘Well, I want to talk
to you about my brother,’ Tess answered back in the same annoyed tone. ‘He’s
really, really sick….and I want to buy a miracle.’

‘I beg your pardon?’
said the pharmacist.

‘His name is Andrew and he has something bad
growing inside his head and my Daddy says only a miracle can save him now. So how
much does a miracle cost?’

‘We don’t sell miracles here, little girl.
I’m sorry but I can’t help you,’ the pharmacist said, softening a little.

‘Listen, I have the money to pay for it. If it isn’t enough, I will get
the rest. Just tell me how much it costs.’

The pharmacist’s brother was
a well dressed man. He stooped down and asked the little girl, ‘What kind of a
miracle does your brother need?’

‘ I don’t know,’ Tess replied with her
eyes welling up. I just know he’s really sick and Mommy says he needs an
operation. But my Daddy can’t pay for it, so I want to use my money.’

‘How much do you have?’ asked the man from Chicago .

‘One dollar
and eleven cents,’ Tess answered barely audible.

‘And it’s all the money
I have, but I can get some more if I need to.’

‘Well, what a
coincidence,’ smiled the man. ‘A dollar and eleven cents—the exact price of a
miracle for little brothers.’

He took her money in one hand and with
the other hand he grasped her mitten and said ‘Take me to where you live. I want
to see your brother and meet your parents. Let’s see if I have the miracle you need.’

That well-dressed man
was Dr. Carlton Armstrong, a surgeon,
specialising in neuro-surgery. The operation was completed free of charge and it
wasn’t long until Andrew was home again and doing well.

Mom and Dad were
happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place..

‘That surgery,’ her Mom whispered. ‘was a real miracle.. I wonder how
much it would have cost?’

Tess smiled. She knew exactly how much a
miracle cost…one dollar and eleven cents…plus the faith of a little child.

The Interview with God

The Interview with God

I dreamed I had an interview with God.

“So you would like to interview me?” God asked.

“If you have the time” I said.

God smiled. “My time is eternity.”
“What questions do you have in mind for me?”

“What surprises you most about humankind?”

God answered…
“That they get bored with childhood,
they rush to grow up, and then
long to be children again.”

“That they lose their health to make money…
and then lose their money to restore their health.”

“That by thinking anxiously about the future,
they forget the present,
such that they live in neither
the present nor the future.”

“That they live as if they will never die,
and die as though they had never lived.”

God’s hand took mine
and we were silent for a while.

And then I asked…
“As a parent, what are some of life’s lessons
you want your children to learn?”

“To learn they cannot make anyone
love them. All they can do
is let themselves be loved.”

“To learn that it is not good
to compare themselves to others.”

“To learn to forgive
by practicing forgiveness.”

“To learn that it only takes a few seconds
to open profound wounds in those they love,
and it can take many years to heal them.”

“To learn that a rich person
is not one who has the most,
but is one who needs the least.”

“To learn that there are people
who love them dearly,
but simply have not yet learned
how to express or show their feelings.”

“To learn that two people can
look at the same thing
and see it differently.”

“To learn that it is not enough that they
forgive one another, but they must also forgive themselves.”

“Thank you for your time,” I said humbly.

“Is there anything else
you would like your children to know?”

God smiled and said,
“Just know that I am here… always.”

-author unknown

What exactly IS self-esteem?

What exactly IS self-esteem?

Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Dr. N. Branden

1. Living consciously – Paying attention to information and feedback about needs and goals; facing facts that might be uncomfortable or threatening; refusing to wander through life in a self-induced mental fog

2. Self-acceptance – Being willing to experience whatever we truly think, feel or do, even if we don’t always like it; facing our mistakes and learning from them.

3. Self-responsibility – Establishing a sense of control over our lives by realising we are responsible for our choices and actions at every level; the achievement of our goals, our happiness and our values.

4. Self-assertiveness – The willingness to express appropriately our thoughts, values and feelings; to stand up for ourselves, to speak and act from our deepest convictions.

5. Living purposefully – Setting goals and working to achieve them, rather than living at the mercy of chance and outside forces and developing self-discipline.

6. Integrity – The integration of our behaviour with our ideals, convictions, standards, and beliefs and acting in congruence with what we believe is right.

Children cannot view themselves directly; they can only know themselves via the feedback and images they receive from significant others. Parents are like mirrors in which children view themselves and these pictures tend to endure into adulthood.

Parenting with Purpose: Five Keys to Raising Children with Values and Vision, Reasoner, Robert W., and Lane, Marilyn L. (2007)

In my opinion, self-esteem is the most important contribution then an adult can make to a child’s life. It is the bed rock on which most other personality traits rest and will do more to determine a child’s future than any other single factor.

Sky Schultz PhD., in Diane Loomans, Full Esteem Ahead

Self-esteem is an intimate experience; it resides in the core of one’s being. It is what I think and feel about myself, not what someone else thinks or feels about me. I can be loved by my family, my mate, and my friends, and yet not love myself. I can be admired by my associates and yet regard myself as worthless. I can project an image of assurance and poise that fools almost everyone and yet secretly tremble with a sense of my inadequacy. I can fulfil the expectations of others, and yet fail my own; I can win every honour, and yet feel I have accomplished nothing; I can be adored by millions, and yet wake up each morning with a sickening sense of fraudulence and emptiness.

Healthy Self Esteem, Dr Nathaniel Branden, (1991)

Self esteem is the ability to choose to experience oneself as competent, to be able to cope with everyday life and particularly life’s challenges, and also of being worthy of happiness and goodness.

Maggie Dent

Research has demonstrated the healthy self esteem develops when children feel secure, have a positive sense of self, feel valued by others and feel a sense of competence

Reasoner, Robert W. et al.

It cannot be attained by being showered with praise, nor by material acquisitions, nor by self-talk, nor by being given unrealistic input. What has been learned in recent years is that one person cannot give another self-esteem

Reasoner, Robert W. et al.

Self esteem evolves through the quality of our relationships with each other. It is born within the family because that is where children decide whether they are lovable and capable people. Of course individuals outside the family also influence self esteem. Teachers, coaches and friends all play important roles at different times during our children’s growing years.

Caron Goode

Another Law of Attraction Story!

I had a couple of amazing moments with my daugther this week, regarding the Law of Attraction that i want to share. Raising our children, I have to walk my talk, how else could i do my work full heartedly?

A few day ago Zorana had a bath and was brushing my teeth. I stood in front of the mirror when i herad her say: ‘Look mummy you are looking at your best friend!’ WOW! I had to think a couple of seconds about what she just said before i understood. I am teaching self-love and self-esteem to the children in my workshops, and for my kids it has always been ‘normal’ to do. But for her to actually say it to me, really showed me that she ‘understands’ it!

The other day we had an expedition to go into the city with the bus. Children love the bus and my sister and nieces joined us. When we where waiting for our take-away lunch, Alec my son found another coin. He always finds money, it is incredible! I know that he attracts it, he just expects to find a coin, or more, whenever we are out. And not many days go buy without him finding one. Well, that day my niece asked what he had found. Proudly he showed her the 2Dollar coin. She said that she never finds money anywhere. Zorana looked at her and said: This is only because you say ‘i don’t find money’, you say that and you really don’t find money. You have to say ‘I find money everywhere!’ Only that way you will find it!

So, this is an amazing proof to me that whatever you teach your children they are taking it on board, even if it doesn’t always seem so!

Please keep those positive affirmations going! Encourage you children to think positive words and talk themselves in the mirror, get them to give themselves compliments!

In Love and Light

Andrea

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